Time to pullover

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We have just celebrated the Easter weekend or Passover and the key message from government is “Arrive alive”. We all know what that means as travellers and holiday makers, but do we know what that means for our lives; careers etc?

I was reading one of Mel Robbins books recently and as she likens our life journey to a road trip, she makes a very big argument about the need to pullover. She is advocating for a moment to pause and reflect on where we are and where we are going?

As I was reflecting very deeply on her arguments, I felt that she is talking to me. That one has spent most of her time chasing a deadline; wanting to be ahead of the curve and I find myself thinking “where to my dearest”? As I reflected on this and in thinking about last week’s blog on defining success I asked myself again the same question from a different angle…what does success look like for me?

I cannot answer these questions if I am running around from one meeting to the next or travelling from one city to the next. I need to find a moment to pause and reflect….as they say when nothing makes sense or things are not working in your favour the temptation is to push hard but as Mel Robbins says it is time to pullover”.

As a coach I have tools to help clients to press the reset button and should you be interested in discussing this further then drop me an email on pam@zenandeleadership.com with a subject matter: Time to pullover.

For now, remember the quote “if the sea can calm itself; so can you. We are both salt water mixed with air”. Nayyirah Waheed.

Let me end this blog with two last questions:

• What will it take for you to take a moment to just be and do nothing?
• What will it take for you to pause and go inside and seek the wisdom of your own inner soul?

Until next time!!

Are your daily habits leading to your success?

Success is self-defined, and no one can tell you what that is.  It is what feels right for you as well as what lights up your soul.  Another way to look at success is that point of equilibrium where your wildest dreams and ambitions meet, and you feel enough and content.

It is often said that successful people have daily habits I.e., those activities; rituals; or practices you have taught yourself over a period of time and they’ve become second nature to you.

This takes me from my main takeaways from James Clear’s Atomic Habits I.e.

• “The more you repeat a behaviour the more you reinforce an identity associated with the behaviour.”
• “The more evidence you have for a belief; the more strongly you believe it.”

James Clear adds two new interesting dimensions I.e., association between and consistent behaviour as well as evidence and belief.  I could write a whole article about these intersections however I am well aware that when writing a blog you need to be short and to the point, so I will keep to that acceptable practice.

I recently read an article by Chelsea Clarke where she shares some things that successful people do everyday, let me move straight into those.

1. They wake up early….some people say starting your day at 5 am or 4 am has enormous benefits as the rest of the people wake up you are an hour or two ahead of the curve.  You can choose to use this time meditating, planning your day, praying, or whatever you need to do to give yourself a head start.
2. They read (almost everyday)….this is about expanding your horizon and deepen your knowledge of what is happening around you.  They say 30 minutes of reading a day exponentially changes your outlook on a number of things.
3. They write their goals down….Chelsea argues that 3% of the people who write their goals down are 10 times more successful than the rest.  They do not only write their goals down, they constantly reflect on progress and find ways to auto-correct if necessary.
4. They find themselves a mentor or a coach….they work with someone who acts as a trusted adviser or an accountability partner.  These two should be mandatory members of anyone’s personal board of directors as they either nudge you in the right direction or hold you to account on your own commitments.  

As a coach I work with my clients to find clarity on their goals or purpose, adopt a workable plan of implementation, help them to find their own solutions to their challenges and hold them accountable to their own commitments to themselves.  Let me know if you want to work with me by sending me an email on pam@zenandeleadership.com and let’s see how I can be of service to you.

For those of you that follow us on social media we will, in the month of April, be sharing tips on what are the practical things you can do to improve your life and work towards your own success.

Lovingly 

Pamthecoach