Money, the economy and me…

Yeah, the title is right for my usual fortnightly blog. I did not mistakenly write this article for the wrong publication. The title is deliberately chosen to invoke a feeling. Before I start, I need you to stop and take a deep breath and honestly ask yourself the question… ‘’How does the topic of money and the economy resonate with me?’’

Many of us do not even read the financial journals or newspapers. The headline does not even catch your eye…. Do you know why? Let me guess… Because ‘’we don’t wanna go there…it’s for the accountants; or it’s for the economists’’. Is it really? Alternatively, ‘’It’s too painful to go there as that could be opening a can of worms’’.

We transact every day and yet we are oblivious to what goes on around money and the economy. It is not for us but at a practical level our salaries increasingly do not last for long; we can buy less food with the same amount of money or the price of fuel is rising and we are often out of gas to get to work or visit friends and family.

I am not writing this as a way of judging or admonishing you; on the contrary, this article is about shining the spotlight on what is happening around us. It is also to shine a spotlight on our relationship with money. This is very important for women because we are natural nurturers and we tend to use our money as an extension of who we are; what is our worth or as our love language.

It is not rocket science to figure out that our economy is in a pretty bad shape, and that there is less and less money in circulation or within our family circles. Do you ever pause and ask yourself, what does it mean? Or what does it mean for our relationships and ways of being?’’ Or have we decided to suffer in silence, borrow some more so that we can sustain our lifestyles and more importantly our relationships.

This article is a first in a series that I will be writing on the subject of money. My first objective is to just raise some level of awareness and curiosity about who we are around money and more importantly what is our belief system around it. Let me ask a few questions to start. Please adopt a curious stance and seek to understand without negative self-judgement. Further do not expect an Economics lecture but a journey towards awakening of our beings in relation to money as a form of energy. Here are the questions:

• Do we regard it as a form of energy or something that illuminates relationships or our sense of being or is it more than that?

• Do we regard money as evil and therefore as good citizens choose not to engage on either its scarcity or abundance?
• Do we regard money as an enigma in our lives and choose not to know how much we generate; what we use it for and under what circumstances?

Last week Statistics SA published a very concerning outlook about our economic performance as a country. Did we even notice? Please go back and find out as part of the curiosity journey. We cannot solve that we do not know and I invite you on a fact finding mission that I will also be walking in the next couple of months.

Do you wanna join? See you next time!!!!

Pam The Coach

Girl Power

In the past month we have seen a few firsts by women. We saw the first African Woman to summit Mount Everest (Saray Khumalo), the first black owned private township school (Margery Tyobo), first black female combat fighter pilot (Maj Mandisa Mfeka); first PWC Southern Africa CEO (Shirley Mashamba) and finally 50% of Minister in the Cabinet are women.

It is indeed exciting times and we need to celebrate these historical moments. As we are celebrating, we need to be mindful of what this means. It was not so long ago when women were relegated to what is perceived as less responsible roles in society.  It is a positive step that activists must pause and welcome. However, it is not a time to sit on our laurels and not to continue to ensure women’s emancipation.

This piece is about the benefits to society when we put women first.  I am not saying this because because I am a woman. I say it because I know and believe that women make the world go around. Women are born nurturers whilst at the same time they are deal makers, strategists, pioneers and champions of societal change.

Women constitute the majority of the SA population and yet this is not translated into leading society and the corporate world. This is the case because we are still living in a male dominated society and it becomes a struggle to award the deserving roles when it should be a given. I believe that the sisters (mentioned above) have shown us that it we can accomplish this same level of excellence as our male counterparts, if not better.  All of these cases are based on merit, passion and a commitment made by these women to be better and in turn, make the world a better place.

As someone who is passionate about this issue, it is my submission that we need to support one another to change this injustice through our deeds. We need to work to dispel the myth that women cannot work with one another or they are difficult bosses or they suffer from a pull her down syndrome.  This is at best untrue if not malicious.

In conclusion I would like to encourage more women, young and old, to go out there and do what they do best. They need to go out there to live their passion, find the requisite support and continue to put one foot in front of the other.  It is a long and hard road however as the one song says “There can be miracles, when you believe” and of course belief or dreaming without action is utopia.

Pam The Coach

Resilience and determination

“The moment we believe that success is determined by an ingrained level of ability as opposed to resilience and hard work, we will be brittle in the face of adversity” – Joshua Waitzkin.

The more I read the above quote the more I debate in my head whether or not, success includes a total of the above factors. I do believe that there is an element of personal drive and a need to contribute more and achieve more. At the same time, just that by itself can be deemed as wishful thinking. To balance it out we do need to take cognizance of the fact that life does happen and we need to be able to withstand that.

This brings me to the story of Saray Khumalo, the first black African woman to scale Mount Everest.  Summiting Mount Everest is not for the faint hearted. Less than 5000 people have scaled the peak since the first summit in 1953. Reading Saray’s story is not only inspirational but is a real confirmation of the saying that “where there is a will, there is a way”.  Her story brings to bare Akash Karia’s definition of resilience  i.e. “ able to withstand or recover quickly under difficult conditions.

As we celebrate Africa Day on the 25^th of May, Saray’s story as an African woman is a good story to tell.  It is a story about Africa’s renaissance.  As an African I am always particularly inspired when I read a story about someone achieving a first. The 2019 theme of “Healthy Lifestyle Prolongs Life” augurs well with what Saray has achieved at a physical level however it is deeper than that. At the core of this is navigating the personal level of resilience at a pace that is congruent with our level of determination.

In conclusion I would like to end this blog by sharing Akash Karia’s work where he deals with the behaviors of emotionally resilient people and these are:

Resilient people:

• Acknowledge their emotions;
• Accept responsibility for their emotions; and
• Learn to interpret the positive intentions of their emotions.

As we celebrate Africa Day , let us remember we have the inner strength to conquer everything we put our mind to. At the same time we should be mindful of  life shocks. We have to build our survival muscle and endurance so that we, like Saray can reach the peak of our mountain of success.  In the words of Madiba…”It is impossible until it is done”.

Coach Pam

Decisions and choices

Last week South Africa went to the polls for the 6th time since the advent of democracy. It is always a special moment given our history. This last election did not disappoint as we were spoilt for choice. The national ballot had a record 48 parties contesting the election. In our everyday lives, we are not always spoilt for choice. Often times we have to make hard choices.

People in leadership positions have to make decisions all the time. Sometimes those decisions are not easy but they have to be made regardless. I sometimes hear people say I am caught between a rock and a hard place. My view is that decisions need to made whether they are popular or not.

I hold very strong views on indecisiveness. For me it is a way of surrendering your power to the unknown. Leaders need to claim their power at any given moment. Of course; they need to research; consult; balance the scores and weigh implications; ultimately a decision has to be made either way.

Some decisions are easier than others and you just have to weigh your options. For some serious decisions I like Brighton Keller’s 5 step process.

1. Clarify the decision – behind every decision there is a problem or issues you are trying to address. Is this the right one? Are you not addressing temporary symptoms?
2. Identify objectives – the clearer you are on the desired outcome the easier it will be to make a decision.
3. Explore alternatives- Gather info and consider your options or the choices you have.
4. Consider consequences and trade offs- making a decision always costs us something. Decide if you can leave with the consequences and know that sometimes something has to give.
5. Choose the best option- Do your best to come to some kind of decision – even if you are not 100% sure if it is the right one.

Enjoy making those choices.

Xxx

Coach Pam

I feel so inspired!!!

Last Friday (8 March 2019), we celebrated International Women’s Day. I do not know about others… but as a woman, I really felt good for being recognized and acknowledged for the efforts that I make to the betterment of the world in tackling the patriarchal tendencies of society.

I was particularly intrigued by some of the comments that some women made on Facebook. Without quoting who said what, these were some that I observed with keen interest…

“International Women’s Day is not only about equal rights for women. The purpose of IWD is to create awareness around patriarchy. The core reason why the relationship between that of women and men becomes one of dominance and oppression.”

“Today is International Women’s Day. The theme for this year is #balanceforbetter – a call to action for driving gender balance across the world.  So how will you be spending your day Phenomenal Woman?”

“Strong women aren’t simply born. We are forged through the challenges of life. Happy International Women’s Day”

Just by simply taking a sample from some of these rich messages and comments made by women, one is excited to note the level of appreciation of what is at stake with regard to women’s emancipation. I am also alive to the inspirational and celebratory nature of the messages.

This brings me to the event I hosted on the day. Over 40 women from different age groups were in attendance. Their personal stories and journeys’, the sisterhood, tips and tools shared were all amazing and gave full expression to the saying(s) that  “the future is female” and “surround yourself with women who bring out the very best in you”.

I certainly was in the company of leaders and above all else, I felt that I belong. I also felt that I still have much to learn from the sisters that were in attendance. I have no doubt in my mind that all of the women that were in attendance are ready to take their rightful place in society, step out and “think equal”. The journey in front of us is to harness that ‘sisterly energy ‘ into concrete actions, that not only seek to get us to the forefront of determining our destiny but is also a journey to enrich ourselves with the requisite skills for “building smart and innovate for change”.  This will enable us to do what we have to do, to ensure the desired outcome.

I, as a leadership coach… Who has set myself a value proposition that goes “I help women leaders and change makers achieve breakthroughs in all aspects of their lives” … have my work cut out for me. I am certainly feeling energized to dig deep and reinvent myself and my offerings in order to respond to the need out there. I am inspired and I am up to the challenge…

“Watch this space!”

Celebrating the Women of the World

In a week’s time we will be celebrating International Women’s Day under the UN theme “Think equal, build smart, innovate for change”.   This theme really talks to me as a middle aged South African woman who sometimes feel overwhelmed by just a mere will to survive.   You can ask the question, why is that?’’  Here is the thing… We still live in the most unequal and unrepresentative society that as a woman I have to work extra hard to prove my worth and value.

 

I believe I am not alone, there are many sisters out there, young and old, who have to constantly swim against the tide, just for the world to recognise that “Women Matter”  It is not the time to lament, however we will be naïve and amiss of our mission in life if we do not pause and reflect on how far we have come and we still have to go whilst staking our claim in the future.

 

At this moment I pause to salute Mama Dorothy Masuka who a few days ago took her final bow.  She is a legend and a music icon who took to the stage and applied her craft in the worst of times.  The spirit of this woman (imbokodo) and many others of her generation uplifted many of us in the darkest days and kept the light shining despite the odds.  She was a beacon of hope and a pillar of strength for many.  As I internalize this year’s theme, I take solace in her spirit and urge other women to take up the mantle and rise to the challenge.

 

It is a time to celebrate and honour those that came before us, at the same time it a time to honour those of us who continue to hold the fort and demonstrate high levels of resilience and courage in pursuit of our dreams and happiness. As a woman today I derive strength from Robert Schuller’s words where he says  “If it going to be…it’s up to me”.   That is the essence of my message to the sisters out there today as we continue to march forward and make the world a better place for current and future generations.

 

As part of these celebrations I am super excited to be hosting another international women’s day celebration event on the 8^th of March in Pretoria, Gauteng.  It is held to celebrate and honour the phenomenal women out there and add my voice of encouragement to everyone to “Think equal, build smart, innovate for change. We will come together as sisters to celebrate, reflect and support each in through sisterhood spirit. If you are interested to attend please contact Ziyanda – Ziyanda@zenandeleadership.com and book your front row seat at no cost to you.  We are pulling out all stops to make this day as productive and worthwhile as we can.  I love these events as they energize me and give me a new perspective to find ways of being and continue to define my relevance and purpose.

 

I am looking forward to celebrate this day with some of you in person and others virtually.

 

 

Pam

“Helping women leaders and change makers achieve breakthrough in all aspects of their lives”

Celebrating the Women of the World

In a week’s time we will be celebrating International Women’s Day under the UN theme “Think equal, build smart, innovate for change”.   This theme really talks to me as a middle aged South African woman who sometimes feel overwhelmed by just a mere will to survive.   You can ask the question, why is that?’’  Here is the thing… We still live in the most unequal and unrepresentative society that as a woman I have to work extra hard to prove my worth and value.

 

I believe I am not alone, there are many sisters out there, young and old, who have to constantly swim against the tide, just for the world to recognise that “Women Matter”  It is not the time to lament, however we will be naïve and amiss of our mission in life if we do not pause and reflect on how far we have come and we still have to go whilst staking our claim in the future.

 

At this moment I pause to salute Mama Dorothy Masuka who a few days ago took her final bow.  She is a legend and a music icon who took to the stage and applied her craft in the worst of times.  The spirit of this woman (imbokodo) and many others of her generation uplifted many of us in the darkest days and kept the light shining despite the odds.  She was a beacon of hope and a pillar of strength for many.  As I internalize this year’s theme, I take solace in her spirit and urge other women to take up the mantle and rise to the challenge.

 

It is a time to celebrate and honour those that came before us, at the same time it a time to honour those of us who continue to hold the fort and demonstrate high levels of resilience and courage in pursuit of our dreams and happiness. As a woman today I derive strength from Robert Schuller’s words where he says  “If it going to be…it’s up to me”.   That is the essence of my message to the sisters out there today as we continue to march forward and make the world a better place for current and future generations.

 

As part of these celebrations I am super excited to be hosting another international women’s day celebration event on the 8^th of March in Pretoria, Gauteng.  It is held to celebrate and honour the phenomenal women out there and add my voice of encouragement to everyone to “Think equal, build smart, innovate for change. We will come together as sisters to celebrate, reflect and support each in through sisterhood spirit. If you are interested to attend please contact Ziyanda – Ziyanda@zenandeleadership.com and book your front row seat at no cost to you.  We are pulling out all stops to make this day as productive and worthwhile as we can.  I love these events as they energize me and give me a new perspective to find ways of being and continue to define my relevance and purpose.

 

I am looking forward to celebrate this day with some of you in person and others virtually.

 

 

Pam

“Helping women leaders and change makers achieve breakthrough in all aspects of their lives”