Finish Line

Everywhere I go and everyone I meet have expressed a common desire…”can 2020 come to an end please”. I buy into this and I get it because this year has been difficult and taxing on many levels. People have had so many misfortunes this year; they have lost their loved ones and in some cases their jobs.

I have also noticed how everyone; notwithstanding the way things were in 2020; are still doing a lot to get to tick a few boxes before 2020 ends. Everyone whilst saying one thing; isn’t it amazing that we also seem to be acting differently? We are winding down 2020 and yet we are gearing up to start 2021 with a bang. Incredible stuff!!!!!

I guess athletes understand this apparent contradiction as often times many athletes often accelerate towards the end. I sometimes wonder why is that the case. I am not an athlete but I guess how you finish a race matters. The start is good to set the pace; in the middle of the race we probably run outof steam and keep at it when the temptation to quit is so compelling and if we do that suddenly towards the end we suddenly get a second wave of energy and race to the finish line as if our life depended on it.

For me a few things need to be in place to run a good race:

• Clarity….this is “understanding your why” and knowing why you joined the race in the first place. Being clear on why the run or why you do what you do helps to propel you forward when you are faced with a possible defeat and therefore a possibility to throw in the towel.

• Resilience….. This is the ability to continue and just put one foot in front of the other. This is the stuff that distinguishes champions and successful people from the average because they possess the grit; resolve and attitude to rise again and keep pushing notwithstanding the odds. They possess a “Can do attitude”

• Preparation and planning….this includes the time spent in training for the race; practicing your drills and getting ready for the big day. Have you ever listened to athletes victory speech? ….They always refer to the hard work they put in before the race; the time they put beforehand. Mental and physical preparation is the key ingredient to success….because on the day of the race a few factors count however if you know that you have run the distance a number of times and consistently finished it within your set time….then you know you can do it on the day.
• Support….again all athletes on the podium always thank the coach; the support team and their families for supporting them through the journey and helping them overcome the personal obstacles that they faced in the lead up to the race. Let’s be realistic this is life and stuff happens. I hold the view that everyone needs a support team that encourages them when they have lost self belief; hold them accountable to their goals and join them in celebrating their victory as if it’s their own.

At the upcoming Visioning Workshops I explore these concepts and bring my tools and experience of over 10 years to help set the foundation for a successful 2021 and beyond. These are online workshops that I am hosting on the 5th and 12th December 2020. If you are interested contact us at 012 998 7337 or info@zenandeleadership.com.

Lovingly

Pam the coach

The Future is Female

The ascendency of women to the highest office is not a regular occurrence. What we saw in the last few days is a rare occurrence and we need pause for a moment and allow it to sink in.  The struggle for women’s emancipation is a long one and has many twists and turns.

We have made some gains in a few countries and women have done a sterling  job on many fronts.  There is still much more to be done and  in Kamala Harris’s words…”I may be the first but I certainly am not the last.” These words encourage us to do more and ensure that the door is  left wide open for many deserving sisters to ascend to positions of authority and embrace others as they occupy these positions.  The notion of ‘Lift as you rise” is important now more than ever.

Women continue to show their mettle and play their part in moving society forward.  Jacinda Ardern (New Zealand) showed the world that as Prime Minister she could lead the charge in fighting the CoVid-19 pandemic and let’s face it she did a sterling job whilst leading from the front. We also need to acknowledge the role of women leaders in the African continent like Phumzile Mlambo-Ngcuka and Sahle-Work Zewde who continue to pioneer change in often difficult circumstances.

These women’s journey’s are incredible and all started with a young girl’s dream.  To have a dream is important; staying the course for its attainment requires grit and resilience.  In addition you need to be clear on what you want and more importantly what will you do to realise it.  It requires putting one foot in front of the other whilst being clear of your destination.

How does one obtain clarity?   How do you stay the course?  I have decided to host the Visioning Workshops online on the 5th and the 12th of December( choose one). At these workshops I share my over than 10 years executive experience and apply a 5 step Visioning process.  Book yourself a front row seat so that you journey with others and use Pamthecoach’s experience to shake off 2020 ; reenergize; restore and recalibrate towards a more productive 2021.

Yes I said it…a productive 2021 as it can be it can be gloomy if you have no plan.  I am a strong believer that we live in a world that darkness does not last forever and that there has to be light.  I believe there is a day and a night and troubles don’t last forever.  The question arises are you ready?  Do you know how to set the reset button?  More importantly do you know how you are going to shake off this year and begin the New Year with clarity?  Remember there is clarity in action and you do not want to be caught unaware or napping.

“Create the highest; grandest vision possible for your life; because you become what you believe” – Oprah

If you are interested, please give us a ring on +27 12 998 7337 or email us at info@zenandeleadership.com 

Yours Lovingly

Pam The Coach

The Final Stretch

The one thing everyone shares at dinner tables ( within the restrictions of an pandemic) is an emphatic chorus “2020 must come to an end now”. It’s been a hard year as the world has been ravaged by a deadly virus. The pandemic has affected economies; work productivity; relationships; fitness and health levels and sadly many have lost their loved ones.

2020 has forced many of us to come out of our shell; pivot our businesses; host virtual parties; worship virtually; read online Sunday papers etc. It has forced us to dig deep; appreciate life and friendships; rediscover ourselves and find creative ways of being.

I want to pause on two words i.e pivot and creative. The dictionary meaning of “pivot” is – “the central point; pin; or shaft on which a mechanism turns or oscillates” Whilst “creative” means – “relating to or involving the use of imagination or original ideas to create something”

In essence these two words are about finding new ways of being and going beyond our comfort zones. For many of us this is hard as we are used to justify standing still and not moving forward. It is often easy to play the blame and/or victim game. Let’s face it who does not need to host a ‘pity party?’ After all things have happened to us and therefore, we are justified to feel a little fragile.

I would like to put out a challenge to my readers as we approach the final stretch of 2020… Can we not use this time to find our essence? Change our mojo and use our imagination to propel us forward. We need to use what is left of 2020 to unlock ourselves and make sure that we become a better version of ourselves.

I am happy to work with you in an exciting set of Visioning workshops to be held virtually on the 5th of December and the 12 of December. These are half day virtual workshops that I will be hosting to help my clients to release 2020 whilst setting up a new plan for 2021. If interested please contact info@zenandeleadership.com and book your slot.

It is as easy as:

1. Choose your date (5 or 12 December 2020)

2. Contact info@zenandeleadership.com to book your slot and find out the cost.

I must say, in designing the workshops I have had to give everything I have whilst being generous and kind. I have had to twist my Financial Manager’s arm to offer these workshops at 2015 prices whilst enriching the offering itself.

Let’s do this and end this year with a bang!!!

Lovingly

Coach Pam

Crl-Alt-Del

A combination of three keys on a PC keyboard, usually labeled Ctrl-Alt-Del, held down simultaneously in order to close an application that is not responding; rebooting the computer; log in etc” – (Dictionary.com).

2020 was one of those years that anything that could go wrong, DID go wrong. I don’t know how many people I have spoken to who want it to end because of too many plans were not realized and many dreams shattered. To be frank; it was a pretty dumb year and most people can’t wait to see the back of it.

Wanting 2020 to end is one thing; knowing how to move forward and restart is another. The question arises – ”how many of us know what to do and how to press the reset button and start all over again?” I am a firm believer in the human ability to bounce back. I believe that we all have an intrinsic ability to not only start afresh but comeback much stronger than we were before the computer froze. My humble submission is that there is no better time to reboot and reclaim our brilliance. You might ask how? Let me share 3 ideas for now.

1. Just do it

I am not talking about the Nike tag line here; although there might merit in exploring that. I am talking about you putting on your dancing shoes and hitting the dance floor. Of course you might miss the beat; but who is watching? Release yourself from the perfectionistic tendencies and embrace the imperfection and before you know you would have danced to the whole song.

2. Clarity is in the action

”I am not sure how and where to start”… ”I don’t have all my ducks in a row”… ”What if?”… ”What could happen?”… ”what should?”… etc. Sound familiar? Well, sometimes you have to perfect the car when it is already on the road. You have to give yourself permission to go ahead and recalibrate whilst on the highway. I am often fascinated by the GPS when we have missed the turn and you hear a message that says “recalculating”. If you have a little patience then the GPS finds the road again and soon we are back on our journey.

3. Get help

Sometimes we just need someone to say….”hang in there, it will be alright”. Sometimes we need a physiotherapist to show us how to walk again and remind our muscles and joints that we were once able to walk. We can get different kinds of help. A professional e.g… a coach: who can help with tools and tips to unlock your best self. You can read other people’s stories, especially those who have overcome adversaries to help you rise again. You can solicit the advice of a friend. There is a myriad of opportunities for you to explore and all you need is to accept that asking for help is a sign of strength.

Let me leave at that for now and please keep in touch by following me on social media; visit our website http://www.zenandeleadership.com to find out more what’s on offer… If you sign up for our newsletter you will certainly get more of these small nuggets to help you to press the reset button.

Lovingly

Pam The Coach

Being in the zone

My last blog was about welcoming Spring and I urged you to find ways to spring into action.

How did that go?   Did you find that useful?  

The good thing for me with the blogs is that I get to do the work as well.   What really got me going was the reference to “a way of being that accepts our true essence”

Since the 1^st of September I have been grappling with this question – What is my true essence”  How do I take back by personal power such that I am fine with who I am?  How do I acknowledge my personal growth and distinguish between intentional living and accepting fate?

I do not know about you but for me these are hard questions that often times I avoid and continue to live a life that is not congruent with who I am?

I am bringing this topic for discussion just to share my thoughts and my own internal debates and it would be real nice if you were to leave me some comments on your perspective or views.

To be able to answer these sometimes difficult questions it helps to Tap in the power Within”   It is my firm belief that when you have tapped into your power you are better able to make the impact you want and not permanently feel in a state of despair.

A few tips on how do to this:

• Find time to be with self – this means no distractions and really use the time to be with self and engage in serious conversations.  Be comfortable with your own company as in many cases we are in the company of others and social beings we seek to please others as a way of seeking belonging;
• Sit with your own discomfort – as we go through life people and certain environments trigger us and it is important that you work out “Why am I feeling this way?  What is it that was being said that is making me feel this way?
• Embrace Change – change is the only constant and every day if we are open to learning and discovery, we should be finding situations that challenge our perspective in life and the paradigms that have served us to date;
• Be prepared to Act – some of us suffer from analysis-paralysis and never find actually do something about anything.   I am firm believer that sometimes we learn to swim by being plunged into the deep end and also clarity is sometimes attained in action.   So start and do something.   With time you can correct or put differently take a calculate risk but do take the risk.

As I conclude I would like you invite you to join me as I explore these and many other issues in two current programs.   The first one is a 7 – day free Spring Awakening Series which is currently running.   The second one is a paid programme where we go much deeper into these issues and more.   Interested?  Please contact info@zenandeleadership.com

Lovingly

Pam The Coach

Springing into action!

Today is the 1st of September yippee! … It is the beginning of spring. This is normally the day we put on our bright colored clothing and go out to have fun as we welcome the day and the season. In the township where I grew up, this would be the day when we take hosepipes to spray each other with water and celebrate the new season.

Given how difficult 2020 has been, this day is super special and we all need to make the best of it. I know what I am saying might be a little reckless because we are still under lockdown and are still dealing with a pandemic.

What if we can usher in the new season in a different way i.e awaken our inner goddess and find new ways of being? Our inner Goddess is about our femininity or that nurturing and caring side of us that we are born with and yet we are not in touch with because we are trying to prove our worth. We spend our lives trying to look the part and fit the script because we think that is what it takes.

What if there is another way of being? A way of being that accepts our true essence and starts to value what we bring to the table. Sheryl Sandberg asks the question of us…”What would you do if you were not afraid”. I take this question further and ask “what would happen if you showed up as you?”

We have gone through difficulty in 2020; some people lost their loved ones and others their jobs etc. We are not out of the woods yet, however we can bring some positive energy to our lives. We can sit and host the biggest pity parties or we can choose the high road. This means recognizing that being feminine is not being weak but being courageous whilst caring. It means not allowing dis-empowering behaviors to define us but adopt those behaviors that are in sync with our highest values and contribute to our divine and feminine excellence.

Bringing positive energy means different things to different people. For me it is about finding ways to rekindle my passion; connect with self and chart a new path in a way that primarily serves me. It further means making choices that serve me; not because I am an island or selfish but recognizing that I matter and I deserve better.

 

I know there are many sisters out there who have written 2020 off and are now living in hope that 2021 will be better. Well; 2021 might be a better year for all we know; however I am not leaving things to chance. I am taking today as the day that marks my reawakening… My life mission and dreams beckon. Today is the day I draw the line in the sand, celebrate and invest in me.

As I embark on this journey I feel generous and would like invite some sisters to join me on a 7 Day Spring Awakening Series. Beginning on the 14th of September 2020… I invite you to join me for an hour of each day between 6:30 and 7:30 pm where I share my best tools and tips of awakening your inner goddess. This means setting aside just one hour of your day in service of YOU. If you need further details please follow our page of Face Book “Zenande Leadership Consulting” or send an email at info@zenandeleadership.com and you will be sent information on how to register.

Lovingly

Pam the coach

Each generation needs to play its part

We are celebrating women’s month and as to be expected during this time people post different things on social media. These posts are often about honoring and celebrating women for their contribution to society. I saw one post a couple of days ago that did not sit well with me and I reflected on it. The post was titled “South Africa needs the skills of the women who led resistance”.  Somehow this headline did not sit well with me as I do believe that every generation of women has its own challenge and women should be able to rise to the challenge of the day.

 

Let me start by acknowledging those generations that came before us. They played a significant role in moving the needle and bring to the forefront the real issues facing women during their times. In 1956, before then and throughout the struggle women braved the apartheid regime’s onslaught against most black women and became a force to be reckoned with. They led numerous struggles at home, at the factory floor, in communities, etc. to get the powers that be to know that “Wathint’abafazi wathint’imbokodo’’.  They paved the way and they pioneered the women struggle.

 

I believe that the women of today have taken the baton and waged the struggle in different ways, often faced the manifestation of patriarchy and other societal evils in different ways.   They have been fighting amongst others, femicide, increased gender-based violence, higher levels of unemployment, increasing levels of poverty and increasing under representation in the boardroom. We saw with pride, how women leaders from various countries were leading the charge against the Covid-19 pandemic.

 

Historically the struggle waged by women is about the recognition that “Women matter” and they should form an integral part of finding societal solutions, if not lead these.  We should however recognise that the form and shape of such struggle maybe different however, the essence is the same and all generations should play their part in taking the struggle against women oppression and all its manifestations a step further. This requires different strategies and tactics, however we should not dare make the mistake of labelling the approaches to be less important. If we do that, we run the risk of weakening the course and start comparing each other and lose sight of the real enemy.

 

We need to build resilience, promote sisterhood and be firm in our resolve that no country can be free unless its women are free.  We need to support the struggles of young women today who often need role models and mentors to just walk the difficult path with them.   We need intergenerational conversations and support mechanisms that seek to understand each other and support one another through sharing tools, approaches and strategies.  We need to build a movement that collectively seeks to support every woman, regardless of age, in their daily struggles.  We need to distinguish between easy victories and the real struggle and if we lose focus the challenge will get bigger.

 

Let us understand that each generation might be faced with different manifestation of the problem but the struggle remains the same.

 

Pam The Coach

 

WOMEN’S MONTH WITH A DIFFERENCE

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Normally, when we celebrate women’s month we would be looking forward to spring and even better a brighter and warmer part of the year.  The high levels of optimism as we march through the last stretch of winter is often unprecedented. Suddenly the spring in our steps is different, we can sense the positive horizon within touching distance.

The Covid-19 pandemic and its impact in our economic and social lives, coupled with rising gender- based violence statistics have made this month a little gloomy to say the least. Suddenly the mood has changed from celebration to concern and fear. What does this all mean for this year’s women’s month? Does it mean women should not be celebrated as there are more things to concern about?  That would be a grave mistake as women and their efforts need to be celebrated and honored now more than ever before… As we know, …

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WOMEN’S MONTH WITH A DIFFERENCE

Normally, when we celebrate women’s month we would be looking forward to spring and even better a brighter and warmer part of the year.  The high levels of optimism as we march through the last stretch of winter is often unprecedented. Suddenly the spring in our steps is different, we can sense the positive horizon within touching distance.

The Covid-19 pandemic and its impact in our economic and social lives, coupled with rising gender- based violence statistics have made this month a little gloomy to say the least. Suddenly the mood has changed from celebration to concern and fear. What does this all mean for this year’s women’s month? Does it mean women should not be celebrated as there are more things to concern about?  That would be a grave mistake as women and their efforts need to be celebrated and honored now more than ever before… As we know,  that they bear brunt of most of the country’s hardships.

 

How best to celebrate women during this time?

 Being cognizant of the current social and economic hardships, we need to celebrate women by recognizing that the following:

• Women are worthy of celebrating

Women constitute the majority of our population and constitute the bedrock of our society.  They diligently contribute to society’s sustenance and their often carry their burden without even a flinch.  They often go about their societal role without complaining and or seeking accolades, and often times they often forget who they are and the value they bring.  We need to continually affirm them especially the younger generation that they are valued and they matter. They might not hold high positions in society however, they hold the most important position of keeping the social fabric intact.

• Women get things done

In the words of Margaret Thatcher “If you want something done, ask a woman”.  They often do the impossible and soldier on with or without recognition. Women know that they need to do what is necessary to keep things going and to drive change. They have resilience and the zest to get things going and often get out of their way to achieve results.

• Women are a Masterpiece

You are God’s Masterpiece – Ephesian 2:10 is a rallying point for women to believe in themselves and honor their beauty.  Beauty is not limited to what is merely seen on the surface.  It is about living your truth and embracing your inner beauty. Having a growth mindset and believing in one’s abilities and skills is fundamental in holding that women are rare diamonds that need to be constantly nurtured and polished so that they remain a masterpiece.

As we celebrate this month in a more somber environment, lets remain focused and appreciate the role that women continue to play in society.

Happy Women’s month

Pam The Coach

Reshape you life by embracing change

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“My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style. If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.” – Maya Angelou

We are going through a very difficult time and the Covid-19 pandemic has had many of us thinking and asking difficult questions. The questions range from seeking to understand why is this happening to when is it gonna end. As I write this I find myself wondering if these are the right questions or the only questions to ask. In the process of reflecting on the current situation I went back to Maya Angelou’s works (I find her teachings very instructive) and checked what would she say about the situation.

As always she did not disappoint she sent me back to the basics i.e my mission…

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