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Be beaYOUtiful.

Three weeks ago I wrote about love and passion and the need to use this month of love to rekindle our love and passion and how we can use this time to exercise self love. Self-love is the ultimate for everyone as once you attain it then you worry less about how people feel about you. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t mean that a person is an island nor am I advocating for self-centredness.   What I am really talking about is not to look for love externally but know that it begins with an internal focus.

Louis Hay is a great proponent of self-love and she even provides tools that we can use to work towards attaining this state of being. For example, she suggests that you can wake up every morning and look yourself in the mirror and profess love for yourself – Yes, it sounds weird. I know… but it works.

Self-love includes being comfortable in your own skin, giving yourself regular compliments and believing in your abilities. It means less self-doubt and being your own number one fan. It leads to being comfortable in your skin and stop being over critical of yourself. I do not suggest for one minute, that we should not work on improving ourselves and stretch ourselves a little, the point I am making is that if you do not believe in yourself then no-one will.   So – how about – am good at what I do, I love my face, I am nice company etc.

When you exercise self-love then you reclaim your personal power.

Personal power is not how physically strong we feel, but the use of our knowledge, thoughts and feelings to act in a manner to get our own needs met in a positive way.  A person’s self-esteem and self-concept are directly related to whether one gets their needs met in a positive way or negative way. You cannot be a spectator in this world – if you want your needs met – go out there and claim it.

Claiming personal power is not something that is associated with women and because of our nurturing nature and general selflessness society tends to judge us when we turn our focus internally. All sorts of labels get used to describe women that have empowered themselves and decide that they matter and their needs come first and they will attend to them.

As we celebrate, 60 years of the infamous August 9th march, lets be mindful of the fact that at the very core of these celebratory activities is a need for women to be recognized for the role they play in society, the potential and talent they possess and the resilience they bring to the boardroom table.

I am excited about the Diamond Jubilee Series (www.diamondjubilee.co.za) as it gives me an opportunity to be nurtured, exercise self-love; be mentored; network with sisters and to be able to stand up and be counted as someone who adds a voice to the fact that women matter. More importantly it gives me an opportunity to claim my personal power and exercise self-love and I can.

See you at one of our events in various parts of the country commencing in Gauteng (11 Alice Lane, Sandton on the 4th of March) or Eastern Cape (Regent Hotel on the 11 of March).

Loving you always

Pam

 

 

Valentine’s Day – Love and passion

February is known to be a month of love and the stores are filled with Valentine Day’s gifts, products etc. Valentine Day also known as Saint Valentine Day is historically a feast day where we celebrate love and affection. We exchange gifts, cards, flowers, romantic dinners etc. with our loved ones and the day’s history comes from Valentine’s expression of love to a young girl who visited him during his prison confinement. Before his death (allegedly killed for attempting to help Christians escape harsh Roman prisons) he apparently signed this letter – “From your Valentine”.

There is often a debate around the significance or the necessity of just dedicating one day to celebrate or express love. Whilst the debate might be necessary to keep our sanity levels as humans for me its about a symbolic day to rekindle our love and passion.

Love can be for someone, for oneself, for a cause, for an object, for a situation – it does not really matter. What really matters is the energy we put behind it and it’s about knowing that is a vehicle, platform or tool to express our passion. We often do not know what our passion in life is and we tend to engage in a myriad of activities ostensibly in pursuit of our passion.

2016 is a very significant year in the SA’s calendar of events and history. It’s a year that we, amongst others, celebrate 60 years of the infamous women’s march to the Union buildings. How best to celebrate this milestone in our history than to use the space and time to remember those heroines by rekindling our love and passion.

I am very passionate about the significant role that women (young and old) play in holding families together, making organisation succeed, nurturing the young and doing everything in their power to make the world we live in a better place.

In 2016 I am proud to be associated with an initiative aimed at recognizing women’s passion, contributions and achievements named – Women Diamond Jubilee Series, with events that are being held throughout the country.

Commencing on the 4th of March 2016 in Sandton and the 11 of March in East London these are celebratory events to recognize sisterhood, embrace love and rekindle our passions. For further info please contact Ziyanda@zenandeleadership.com or 012 998 7337. Be part of this significant series or even better give somebody a valentine gift buy buying her a ticket to these events.

Happy Valentine’s Day

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